The second thing you say about the Aard thing it could be a bug. I can always attack at the same time that I'm doing Aard, like Q+Leftmouse (Aard+Quick attack). With that I can hit the target at the same time that I hit him with the Sign. Is pretty nice move.
But yes, sometimes Geralt respones a bit laggy, like when you're just standing with full Vigor, you press E and the parry pose doesn't show up for a few seconds :S